Legacy or Relationship?

Over the past few weeks, several pop culture icons in America have died, inciting hours upon hours of endless news coverage about every minute detail about their lives with Michael Jackson being the most notable. Due to Michael Jackson’s controversial lifestyle, many public debates have ensued over his legacy–and who knows if Michael Jackson was really that concerned about what people think about him now that he’s gone. However, Rabbi Shmuley Boteach wrote an illuminating piece on Michael Jackson’s inner soul entitled, “Master of an Empty Kingdom”, that may shed some light on what he thought about his legacy.

While most of us will probably never reach Michael Jackson’s iconic status, we do wonder about what’s going to be said about us at the end of our lives. But sometimes, that can distract us from what our focus should be.

The Need to Stunt Our Faith

Nearing age three, my daughter Faith’s inquisitive nature makes for an incessant stream of “What’s that, Daddy?” It is equal parts endearing and tedious. When I have time, it’s endearing; when I don’t … well, you get the picture.

One recent afternoon I could see the question beginning to form in Faith’s mind as her eyes fell fixated on the pens atop the desk in my newly organized office. And I knew what she was thinking: “Neon pink and yellow pens? I want them!” As the question began rolling off her tongue, I was reaching for them and showing her what a highlighter was. She proceeded to ignore my explanation about how they mark important things and expressed herself as artistically as any toddler can.

Ready to Throw the Towel in?

Whenever I see those Staples commercials where everything in the office is chaotic and some worker pressing the “easy” button and everything is solved, I anxiously await a 1-800 number to appear on the screen so I can order one. (In fact, someone in my office has one—but it doesn’t work like they do in the commercial. Instead it’s just an mp3 recording of a man saying, “Buy more paper” or “Do you need more pens?”)

If only life were that easy to fix. The truth of the matter is that we make life complicated through our choices—or life becomes complicated due to the choices (and oftentimes dysfunction) of others. Sometimes, I feel like Annie and just want to throw in the towel. But like Annie, I can’t just check out.

Making God in My Image

In our society of discontent, we often hear (and sometimes say ourselves), “If I were president …” We presume that we have the solutions for a dire problem that seems to simple to us, but in reality is complex and nuanced.

This spirit of discontent sometimes boils over into my faith, resulting in me uttering this harrowing phrase: “If I were God …” Thank God, I am not. I tend to lean more heavily on the rod of discipline than on the garland of grace.

Is Being Human an Excuse?

Being human means that we get to experience life in extraordinary ways. From the joy we feel to the pain we suffer, the human experience is robust. However, “being human” is more than a two-word moniker for life as a homo sapien. It also isn’t an excuse for living a selfish life.

When it comes to abdicating responsibility, there is one phrase that makes my skin crawl: “I’m only human.” I just think, Oh, well, in that case, why should I ever expect anything extraordinary out of you. Obviously, being human to you means being ordinary and living with the expectation of failure.

Are Rules Cramping Your Style?

Rules can be wonderful things. I often hear people complain about rules as if they are cramping their style. At the same time, I’ve never heard a person complain that the whole red light-green light traffic system is too constricting. When applied properly, rules help us set up parameters from within to operate as well as give us a framework to notate our compliance.

But rules do not replace relationship.

Respond or React?

I must admit that I love mercy … for myself. When it comes to recognizing my failures and downfalls, I talk about mercy like it’s next big thing. However, when it comes to others, I tend to lean toward justice. Nobody should get away with anything, right?

While I think most of us can relate to a similar tension in our lives, there are moments when that mental philosophy becomes a reality that goes too far. We want justice for that person, not mercy.

This past weekend while playing in a soccer team against a team that was severely sportsmanship challenged, I was faced with this tension. These guys played dirty—a knee in your thigh here, an “unintentional” swing and a miss at your ankle there. I honestly can’t believe my shorts didn’t get yanked down at some point.

During the tournament, we played this certain team twice. In our first meeting, they played so dirty that some of our players were in serious danger of getting hurt. That’s why in our second meeting for the championship, my heart didn’t exactly go out to one of the worst perpetrators on the other team when he went down with an injury. Serves him right, I thought.

From Meth to Math :: Portrait of Redemption

Cheri poses after graduating to get her GED.

I don’t know if there’s anything more beautiful to me than a life redeemed—a purpose restored to a person who has reversed the drive to live for him or herself and turned that into love for God … and others.

When I meet these people in the aftermath of their redemption process, I can’t help but be amazed at the deep work of God in their lives. It’s not that they’re suddenly a Bible-toting goody two shoes; in fact, far from it in many cases. But it’s just hard to image how God captured their heart from a place that seemed so far gone. Cheri is one such person.

Cheri works on our church’s janitorial staff, cleaning up after people and polishing up our facility. Yet, the work she does is nothing compared to the work God has done in and through her. And the work God is still doing. And the work she’s cheerfully joined.

Fake It ’til You Make It?

I’ve often heard people say this troubling phrase about many facets of life: “Fake it ’til you make it.” When I hear it referenced in terms of Christian faith, it’s like fingers screeching down a chalkboard for me. We may know how we’re supposed to live as Christians, but the how doesn’t always translate into a prescribed action. Do we still do something the Bible tells us to do even if our hearts aren’t exactly in the right place?

I recently heard a pastor share one of his biggest mistakes in his early ministry regarding money that illustrates this point. Before asking the ushers to pass the collection plate, this pastor proclaimed, “The Bible says that God loves a cheerful giver. So, if you’re not cheerful about giving this morning, don’t give.” The inference that God loathes an uncheerful giver is where his train went off track. And it resulted in such a low offering that his senior pastor called him in for a discussion about appropriate ways to discuss money and offerings in church.

Wooly Adventures in Hearing God Speak

In our fast-paced culture, the analogy of sheep and their shepherd is a strangely foreign concept. I recently heard Margaret Feinberg talk about sheep herding at a conference and was intrigued by the powerful symbolism she was able to draw from witnessing firsthand this long lost art. However, I still struggled to grasp the depth to which I am a sheep and Jesus is my shepherd … until my recent trip through the Sierras.

Like any good red-blooded male, I sped along the highway on our trip from Idaho to Southern California with the primary objective of proving Mapquest’s estimated time travel wrong. I had trimmed almost an hour off our trip before we entered the Inyo National Forest and watched my goal dissipate into the Sierra mist. Instead of cruising along and enjoying the breath-taking scenery, we were suddenly stuck behind a flock of sheep meandering down the highway at the breakneck speed of 2 MPH.